The Last Goodbye

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When I decided to cremate Chester’s remains, I’ve no idea what to do with his ashes. I spent quite some times asking opinion from friend and memorial service experts, Chinese tradition expert and also get ideas from the internet. Some keep the urn in the house, some spread the ashes on the road where they had their daily walks, some place the ashes in the soil and planted a tree or flowers, some scatter the ashes in the sea and some put the urn in a pet memorial park.

Initially, I plan to keep Chester’s urn in the house. Then I thought I would love to plant some flowers together with the ashes and spread some on our daily walking paths. My mom were against all this (Chinese tradition). The idea of scattering the ashes in the sea was in my mind too because I’ve only brought Chester to the sea once when he was quite young. He had one of the best day in the sea… he was a natural swimmer. I had wanted to bring him swimming either in the sea or swimming pool since that day and my dream never materialized.

Also, I read that it’s best to immerse the ashes in water so that he won’t be harmed by ghosts that wants to gain control of the ashes.

Finally, I made a decision. I knew what to do. I want to set him free.


Yesterday Saturday, we collected the urn containing Chester’s ashes from the pet hospital in PJ. I was brave. Didn’t shed any tears when I was there. On the way to the car, I told Chester that we’re bringing him to the sea.

We brought him to Batu Laut beach at Tanjung Sepat. It’s located about 10km from Morib beach. I found out about this Batu Laut beach when I had dinner at Asam Batu Laut Restaurant two years back. It’s located just a short distance away after Asam Batu Laut Restaurant. This Batu Laut beach is much less populated than Morib beach which make the scattering of ashes easier.

We walked to the end of this concrete walkaway, where the blue boat rested, where the tides were coming in…

Around 5pm, 10 October 2015 at Batu Laut beach with the setting sun at the horizon, I opened the urn that contains Chester’s ashes. I was shocked. The ashes were almost full to the brim with a couples of his bones. I wore a pair of rubber gloves and proceed to scattering Chester’s ashes in the sea.

In my crying voice, I told him to have fun swimming in the sea and when he have enough fun, go on and reborn. Be a good person. I also thanked him for being with our family for 12 years. When all the ashes have found its way in the sea, I immersed the urn in water to clean any remaining ashes. Then I set the urn on the sea and see it floats away.

So that was my last goodbye to him. πŸ™

I think this way was the best for him. Holding on to him will only prevent him from being reborn again. And I don’t want that. The memories of Chester and together with my first dog, Lassie are etched in my heart forever. I didn’t told him that I love him because I knew he knew. πŸ™‚

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  • Reply hamnin1027 October 11, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    Hi! I’m hamnin1027 from Instagram.
    I read this page. I know you spend so hard time. And also know how much you love him.
    He must be happy with you.
    Please accept my sincere sympathy.

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 11, 2015 at 10:44 pm

      Hi Hamnin, Thank you so much for dropping by here. Greatly appreciate your care and sympathy. We all love our dogs, don’t we? You too take care.

  • Reply Benny October 11, 2015 at 1:32 pm

    Goodbye Chester.

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 11, 2015 at 10:52 pm

      Hi Benny, Thanks for being a fan of Chester. He was so lucky to have you all who adores him.

  • Reply Constance Ann October 13, 2015 at 12:03 am

    so sorry to hear this!

    i lost my first doggie few years back, i certainly know how you feel. *hugs*
    tata Chester, surely you will be missed, handsome!

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 13, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      Hi Constance, thank you.

  • Reply Dawn October 13, 2015 at 2:25 am

    HUGS….cry of I did and still am….and that was the best you could do for him and for yourself. Did you get a print of his paw? Will miss you, Chester <3

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 13, 2015 at 5:23 pm

      Hi Dawn, can we get print of his paw after he passed away? We don’t have this sort of thing here. I have wanted to take a simple paw print using non-toxic paint myself but never find the time and also forgot. At least I have his fur. Now don’t cry anymore. I have stop crying. *hugs

  • Reply keeyit October 20, 2015 at 8:13 am

    Good bye, from here too…
    Che-cheh, take care…. *Hug*

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 20, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Hi Keeyit, Thanks and hugs.

  • Reply foongpc October 20, 2015 at 5:24 pm

    This is very interesting! I didn’t know that the ashes are best scattered in the sea! No wonder some people want their ashes scattered in the ocean and not kept in the memorial. The part about the ghosts taking control of the departed soul sounds creepy to me.

    • Reply Che-Cheh October 20, 2015 at 7:58 pm

      Ya me neither until I look into it.

  • Reply foongpc October 20, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    Goodbye to Chester and hope that he will have an exciting journey ahead! πŸ™‚

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